About Me

Hi, I’m Haley Frits, a trained Somatica® sex and relationship coach living in the Bay Area.

When it comes to your needs and desires in sex and relationships, are you still figuring your “stuff” out? Welcome to the club. Don’t worry, there’s no membership fee. I believe every one of us has been there at some point, between the moment we first discover pleasure and now.

I came into this work having previously studied psychology, sexual health education, and human development, in addition to my personal investment in learning more about alternative relationship structures, kink, and trauma healing (a.k.a. a lot of “figuring my stuff out”). One thing I know for sure, and that is: We are pleasure seekers from birth, reaching out to be held, fed, and cared for, and continuing throughout life in the ways we search for love and acceptance. But, as we grow, society shifts us to ignore this core driving force, prioritizing other versions of success while disconnecting us from (and sometimes even shaming us for) what brings us pleasure. How and when did pleasure become a bad thing?

I’m here to pull pleasure back into the spotlight, because let’s face it, it is key to your well-being. With hands-on practices, I’ll help you feel at home in your own skin, uncover those secret desires you’ve been ignoring, and figure out where your personal “nope” zones are.

So, I’d love to invite you in. We can explore together how to love you properly, so you can have the relationships you deserve, ones that fill your life with pleasure and possibility. I look forward to connecting with you soon!

With Love,

Haley